Debbie Marielle Elzea, J.D, NLC, Sexuality Specialist,
Mother, Sensual Explorer, Blissfully Married Woman
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How I Got Started in Intimacy Coaching
I wasn't always a turned-on, sexy and cherished woman; it's been a journey!! Like so many of us, I've grown up in a culture that shames rather than celebrates female sexuality, been assaulted, harassed, and lived a sexless marriage.
You are not broken and neither was I; we are strong, loving, and empowered! Life may hand us lemons, and that is not our fault...but it is up to us to make lemonade!
Regardless of your history, you are capable of creating and enjoying life’s greatest joy: a blissful, connected, intimate relationship and sex life. It’s my profession, pleasure and passion to help you shed your sexual frustration, shame or emptiness, and find your bliss.
If you are in an unfulfilling or shaky relationship now, as the woman, you have the power and ability to create sexual excitement and connection with the man you have! The grass is greener....where you water it!
So many relationship challenges and pain are based upon misunderstandings of fundamental male-female differences. I've been a student of the 'male mind' since reading Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, decades ago. Contemporary thought and therapy puts little or negative value on the fact that men and women are instinctually very different...and bring different gifts and needs into the relationship, and into the bedroom. I help women understand and appreciate that their husband is not a big, hairy woman, who is misbehaving! So that they treat him in a way, that makes him want to be her hero.
If your man is like many, sex is the way he feels and expresses love; and if he is like most, he desires nothing more in the world than for his woman to be truly enthusiastic about being with him. A loved-up man then gives his woman the emotional intimacy she craves. If your man needs to improve in the lover department, you'll learn your needs and how to communicate them to your man in a way that feels loving and connected and not critical. You need not even tell your man what you are up to; he can just delight in your transformation!
This is not mystical healing, and we don't need to dive deep into your past or your psyche. I believe that the best kind of healing comes from loving and being loved, feeling self-confident and self-expressed, and making your vision come true. A loving relationship is a joy. Female sexual pleasure is an art, a science, and a learned skill; it's the new self-growth. When shared with another, it’s the most powerful source of love and joy in your life!
NOT EVERY COACH
Has lived both the dream and the nightmare...understands where you’re coming from and what you want to create with your partner
Earned a Doctorate ‘with honors’ from a top university, and spent decades as a professional business woman and mother before pursuing my 'passion project:' You!
Has had specialty, hands-on training in Somatic sex education and sex coaching and intimacy methodologies, sacred sexuality, and life coaching.
Offers real life, practical, science-based, sex-positive tools and support with a touch of sacred sexuality.
Leverages scientifically proven embodiment and mind-body techniques that relax your nervous system and rewire your brain for more pleasure.
Co-creates a customized, action-oriented process, empowering you toward your vision for your ideal love life.
Won't focus on past wounding, but instead treats you as a fully capable woman who simply needs support to get 'unstuck.'
Is a ‘Rational Romantic’ (my Match.com name when I met my husband) who genuinely appreciates men and helps you understand and leverage male-female differences.
I am a lifelong student of love, sex and male-female relations. My formal relationship and intimacy trainings include: